Holidays and stress go together like jingle and bells. Whatever is stressing you out this year, we have four simple tips for bringing the ahhh.
Buying gifts, planning get-togethers, eating and drinking too much, sleeping too little… yes, the holidays can be stressful. But one of the biggest sources of stress might be coming from within, says Sheerli Ratner, PhD, a clinical psychologist with MetroHealth. “It’s easy to get lost in expectations of how the holidays should look or be, at the expense of our inner well-being.”
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Visualize who you want to be.
Don’t just think about what you have to do. Instead, spend time visualizing who you want to be. Jot down words that describe your ideal mental state. “Joyful.” “Calm.” “Relaxed.” Then spend some time creating a mental picture of yourself being that person. Visualization can work to reset your mood: The mind is a powerful thing.2
Plan ahead for conversations.
When we socialize with others, we’re often listening to think of a way to respond. Try to flip that and instead listen to understand. That doesn’t mean agreeing with the other person, but it may help you avoid endless back-and-forth arguments. Simple phrases like, “I hear you,” or “Thank you for sharing” can help the conversation keep from going off the rails.3
Interrupt spiraling thoughts.
Moments of frustration or anxiety are never totally avoidable. But in moments of tension — a burned batch of cookies, an argument with your sister, a delayed flight — it’s tempting to think everything is ruined. Remind yourself that while you can’t control the weather or your sister, you can control your reaction. When stress or panic threatens, ground yourself by listing three simple things you’re grateful for at that moment, like, “My feet are warm, I like this song, that candle smells amazing.”4
Don’t wait until January.
Want to sleep better? Drink more water? Start meditating? Eat more fiber? Don’t wait until the new year to make “resolutions.” Whatever you can do for yourself in terms of making positive changes (even tiny ones) right now can help give you the energy and peace of mind to get through a challenging holiday season.
MetroHealth Behavioral Health
If you or someone you know is struggling, it’s important to start with a primary care provider.
To schedule an appointment, call 216-MY-METRO (216-696-3876) or visit metrohealth.org/appointments.
